I ran into Inga the other day, a familiar and well-liked figure among local Republicans. We had a genuinely pleasant conversation. No raised voices, no eye-rolling, no talking past one another. Just two people exchanging views. That part mattered. Talking still matters.
Inga said something that sounds good on its face: we need to come together for the greater good. I don’t disagree with the sentiment. But before we rush into hand-holding and kumbaya, we need to be honest about a few prerequisites. Unity without ground rules isn’t unity—it’s surrender to whoever lies the loudest.
So let’s start with rule number one: tell the truth. Not “your truth,” not a Facebook meme, not a Fox-News-after-dark fantasy. Actual, verifiable facts. If something didn’t happen, stop saying it did. If a claim collapses under even minimal scrutiny, drop it. A shared reality is not optional in a functioning democracy.
Rule number two: open meetings. Republicans, whenever they can, hold closed meetings and exclude Democrats. It happens routinely. Democrats, by contrast, allow anyone to attend, speak, and be heard. That difference is not accidental. Openness is a defining feature of a free society. Closed doors are the first instinct of people who are afraid of questions.
Rule number three: respect facts, even when they’re inconvenient. If someone spins a fairy tale—about elections, libraries, immigrants, schools, or history—let’s call it exactly what it is. A lie. Not “misinformation.” Not “another perspective.” A lie. Pretending otherwise doesn’t promote harmony; it rewards dishonesty.
Coming together does not mean pretending both sides behave the same way. They don’t. It does not mean agreeing to disagree about whether gravity exists. And it certainly doesn’t mean smiling politely while one side dismantles the basic norms that make democracy possible.
I appreciated the conversation with Inga. I appreciate anyone willing to talk instead of shout. But real unity requires more than civility—it requires integrity. If we want the “greater good,” we have to agree on truth, transparency, and facts first. Everything else is just noise.